Ways to Build Up a Child’s Confidence

In the age of modern media and technology, it’s not a surprise that children as young as two, or even younger, are already exposed to them. It’s also not uncommon for children to also be exposed with social media which has proved to be the petri dish of unrealistic expectations coming from social media influencers and even social expectations of just normal, everyday person. As such, there is also the matter of cyber-bullies or “trolls” that hide behind an identity on social media to inflict hurt to other people with their words. The challenges listed above make it harder for children to acquire a positive self-view as they grow up.

Parents can ensure their children become the happy, well-rounded individuals they were meant to be by putting the time and energy into fostering positive approaches to self-esteem and confidence from a young age. There are a lot of help with regards to building up one’s self-esteem. Parents can also access different kinds of help ranging from activities to books, and even TV programs that promote positivity for children. Additionally, parents should also not stop helping their children when they reach adolescents. Teen age years are also a crucial part in a child’s life especially in building up their confidence and self-esteem.

Activities to boost self-esteem

Understandably, parents also lead busy lives to provide for their children. Which is why, we’ve gathered up a list on confidence boosting activities that parents and children can enjoy and benefit from.

1. Success jar

Success jar is one of the most common methods to build up a child’s self-confidence. It also goes by many names but the principle is still the same. This is a good activity to remind the child of all their previous successes, going from small victories to larger scales ones to help them remember that a bad day or week doesn’t change all the past glories they’ve already achieved.

Aside from being a very heartwarming activity, it’s also pretty easy to do. All the parent and child needs are two things – a large container, like a mason jar or a fishbowl, and strips of paper. Not since the items are all easily accessible, the parent should sit down with their son or daughter and ask them to remember all the times they’ve felt pride in themselves.  It should be clear that it can be anything from small acts of kindness to strangers, say someone asked for directions and they willingly helped, or it can be when they won a sports activity in school.

Understandably, the parent can also put in their contributions of the times they felt proud for their son or daughter. However, make sure that most of the input comes from the child themselves. The parent can also help the child by giving them prompts from the times they have achieved something that the child may not remember.

Put all the strips of paper inside the jar. Get them to pick a few slips out of the jar and read them aloud after they have had a bad day. This will help them remember what it was as they accomplished whatever is on the paper. As such, remind the child to also add in the jar whenever they achieved something good or felt good about something they’ve done.

2. “I like” sessions with friends or family

This activity is also one great way for the child to see all the great sides of themselves that others can also see. Sometimes, people just really need an outside perspective for them to also realize their own greatness. Children especially may feel down and forget their great qualities or forget that everyone has their own unique set of great qualities. Having this awareness can be a valuable way to boost self-esteem.

“I like” activities can be done between a group of friends or family. The activity is also very simple with all the participants gathered on a table or wherever they are comfortable. Each individual writes what they admire the most about each person involved in the activity. The paper should also be marked with the name of the person given that the words are about.

Once everyone has written their slips, place them into a bowl with all the other slips to make it anonymous. Once done, distribute the slips to the correct person. It all depends on the participants if they want to read the words aloud to share with the group or if they want to keep the words or letters on their own. Either, this activity is also sure to help the child see or get reminded of their good qualities.

3. Create a bucket list

Self-esteem and self-confidence are built in part by providing your child with the skills to be resilient. For a child, especially when they are young and still new to the real world, embracing the notion that they won’t give up until they’ve achieved their goals and following through with it can be a powerful thing. Through this, they will be able to see themselves as someone who controls their actions and in turn, their destinies in a sense.

Teaching perseverance can also be tricky. However, an easier route to take would be teaching the child first to set goals. Help them understand that by listing down what they want to achieve, they will have an easier time to set their route towards their success.

Start by helping the child create their own bucket list. The goals can be anything—as large or as small as the child is comfortable with. However, if they list down something momentous, help the child also break down the goal into smaller, achievable targets that still ties up together with the original goal.

Additionally, having the bucket list posted somewhere always visible to the child will help them be regularly reminded of the things they want to achieve. Helping the child understand that big tasks can be achievable through deep commitment and smaller steps can be a great way to develop their positive attitude which also boosts their self-esteem.

4. Teaching responsibility

Giving children responsibility for tasks, projects, or even just for making decisions can be a powerful way to develop their independence and help children with low self-esteem. it can be somethings as small as walking the pets, washing the dishes, or helping prepare dinner. These little tasks also give them the sense of importance and makes them feel better having contributed to something.

While it may be trivial for adults, this can be a huge thing for children as they have limitations with regards to this area. Trusting them with responsibility is a great way to get them to start believing in themselves too. A series of little, regular steps soon add up to a substantial improvement in self-esteem and self-belief.

5. Let them lead

There are many possible leadership opportunities that can be incorporated into the point concerning responsibility and decision making. Being the leader may be daunting for children the first time, but it is a good opportunity for them to grow. You can help them by creating projects or situations where they will have to step up to the shoes of a leader. There are also many programs outside of the home that can help them practice their leadership skills. They will help the child take charge of the situation and really push themselves. After all, they will have their members to look after and that alone helps give them a sense of responsibility.

6. Engage in sports

Sports, may it be solo or teams, also provides a great impact in helping to improve a child’s self-confidence. Remember that in sports, they will be trained to be better. With the guidance of their coaches, they will be able to see how much they can do or improve if they set their mind to it. Sports also teaches many values that goes beyond the physical. It teaches children perseverance and discipline. Sports, as well as any form of hobbies, can also provide a child with a sense of identity, which also helps with improving their self-esteem.

7. Positive talk

Talking to a child can result in the more desired result than any other activities mentioned above. Of course, when the child is feeling down and showing signs of low self-esteem, parents would worry. It affects many aspects of a child’s life and if left alone, they can bring it with them later on in life.

Positively speaking with the child can have many benefits. It helps the child understand that they can open up to their parents about their struggles and they have the encouragement they need to achieve their goals. It’s also important to help the child understand that no one is perfect and everyone has value. Encouragement and affirmation can o wonders in helping a child build up their confidence.

Additionally, parents can look into the child’s teacher or home tutor to also take part in helping build up their self-esteem. it takes a village to raise a child and with everyone involved, the child will surely have many people rooting for them to get better and to feel better about themselves.



Carelle is a teacher who has been through the ups and downs of the teacher and learner life. She wishes for every learner to gain educational satisfaction that will help embody the people they want to be in the future.

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