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Tips To Raise an Honest Child

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Every parent wants their child to grow up to become an honest and outstanding individual that is looked up to by their peers and serves as their role model. However, not many parents are actually putting in the effort to raise their children to become honest individuals.

This may be due to the lack of knowledge on how to properly raise a child to become honest as they grow up. But fear not, for this article is dedicated to educating the parents on how to raise their children so that they can grow up to become honest individuals.

The benefits of an honest child

Honesty is a trait that can easily be replaced with deceit and is often considered as an optional trait that individuals can display if they wish to appeal to another. However, once a child is raised to truly embody and live by honesty, then they will be gifted with the following benefits:

1. Grow up to be exceptional individuals

There are two ways by which a child will grow up and perceive the way they were raised as a child. One is called active development where they are the primary determiners of their own growth and how they will turn out, and the other is passive where external influences affect the way they grow up.

Whether they choose to develop actively or passively, they will still display the virtue of honesty instilled upon them by their parents as they will view it as a positive trait. When an individual displays honesty at all times and has been raised to do so, they will most certainly grow up to become an exceptional individual.

2. They will most likely pass the trait to their children

How children are raised by their parents will also highly affect the way these individuals will raise their future children. This is only a natural phenomenon due to the human being’s innate nature to copy what they see and experience. And if the child has not experienced any other method of raising children, then they will most likely just copy the way they were raised.

If a child were to be raised with the virtue of honesty kept with high regard, then they too shall raise their child the same way they have been: with a keen emphasis towards building and instilling honesty. This will create a long generation of honest individuals that will start from a single child that was raised with honesty.

3. Will pave the way for better character development

Once a child has been exposed to a negative demeanor, they will be more and more open towards the thought of acting negatively more. The same could also be said true for positive acts. Once a child has been raised with a keen emphasis on their honesty, then they will most likely be more open towards developing their character even more by taking in more traits that affect them positively.

The development of one’s character for the better is always something that a parent would like to see their child do, and it can be made possible by simply instilling the value of honesty in their child.

Tips to develop a child’s honesty

Now that we are aware of the benefits being honest will bring to your child, let us now discuss how you can develop your child’s honesty holistically and ethically. Here are the tips you can follow:

1. Become a role model

As we have briefly touched on earlier, the human being has an innate nature of copying the actions of others around them when they are not aware of what to do. And a child barely has any knowledge of what is the right thing to do in most situations. Thus, it is your duty as a parent to become a role model and to portray the honest individual at all times.

You cannot expect your child to develop into an honest individual without a role model they can look up to. This will help them be guided on the proper actions to take and will instill into them the value of honesty as they have witnessed first-hand from their parents how an honest person acts.

2. Avoid giving them chances to lie

People, especially those in their early years, generally tend to lie when forced into a corner. If your child is sitting on the floor with an empty glass in their hand and a puddle of juice on the floor next to them, then don’t ask what happened as this will most likely end up in the child lying their way out in order to avoid punishment.

Allowing a child the chance to lie will only lead them to believe that lying in order to get out of a sticky situation is fine and completely acceptable. They can then end up with this false sense of security which will only bring them nothing but trouble later on in life.

3. Tell them positive stories

Children love listening to stories. It is one of the ways they get to expand their imagination and can help build up their character along the way. So, it would only be natural to tell them stories that strengthen their desire to become honest individuals.

A great example would be telling them the story of George Washington and the cherry tree where his brave action, to tell the truth, was rewarded. This will greatly enforce a child’s desire to tell the truth as they will be expecting good things to happen to them once they keep the virtue of honesty.

4. Tell them that telling the truth makes you happy

Young children tend to love pleasing figures with authority. And in this case, you, the parent, are the figure of authority that they follow. So, telling them that you will be pleased if they were to tell the truth will result in them being more likely to tell the truth as they will naturally want to please you.

However, this method becomes less and less effective as children grow older. This is due to the fact that teens tend to care less about what pleases the parent and more about what pleases them. Still, this method is worth trying out especially if your child is still in the early stages of their life.

5. Do reward honest acts

The best way to enforce honest behavior in a child is by incorporating a reward system whenever they tell the truth. But first, you need to be observant enough to spot when a child is being honest or not. By doing so, you will be able to determine which actions deserve rewarding and which needs reprimand.

Giving rewards to a child whenever they tell the truth will enforce a positive outcome to their actions which will motivate them to remain honest. Rewards can be in the form of snacks, toys, or even better: praise. Praise is one of the best ways to show affirmation and to display that what the child has done is a good thing. You can always reward them with praise to not spoil them with tangible objects.

6. Learn to discipline calmly

Whenever you catch a child telling a lie, the best course of action would be to not go full rage mode, but instead to reprimand their actions calmly and in a collected manner.

Exposing your child to an environment where negative conduct is punished harshly and not in a calm manner will most likely promote lying as a means of escaping punishment. They will learn to make better lies to get out of sticky situations which will only enforce the false thought that telling the truth is only situational.

7. Have a conversation with them, not a lecture

If a parent seems too stiff even towards their child, then the child will most likely develop farther away from the parent. The more open and warm the relationship is between the parent and the child, the more likely the child will be to open up to their parents and tell the truth.

And one of the best ways to show that a parent is willing to listen to their child is by having a calm and orderly conversation whenever there are any misunderstandings or clashes. Rather than pouting out lectures about what the child should have done, if a parent were to listen to the circumstances that led to the situation, then the conversation and their relationship will go much more smoothly.

8. Set rules to follow

If a parent seems too stiff even towards their child, then the child will most likely develop farther away from the parent. The more open and warm the relationship is between the parent and the child, the more likely the child will be to open up to their parents and tell the truth.

And one of the best ways to show that a parent is willing to listen to their child is by having a calm and orderly conversation whenever there are any misunderstandings or clashes. Rather than pouting out lectures about what the child should have done, if a parent were to listen to the circumstances that led to the situation, then the conversation and their relationship will go much more smoothly.

9. Let them have their own space

Teens can be really difficult to deal with. All of the hormones that they mass produce and the peer pressure they experience from school can lead them to seek privacy and drift away from family. As a parent, you should respect their need for privacy and personal space by not being too intrusive.

Ask them how their day went or if they finished the project that they were doing at a friend’s house and not who they were with or what they talked about. Prying too much can lead the child to become secretive and put up an even greater wall between them and you.

If you were to give them space and only ask what is necessary, then they might open up about extra details of their own free will. If a teen feels like their privacy is not being violated, then they will be more open to the fact of opening up to their parents.

Carelle

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Carelle is a teacher who has been through the ups and downs of the teacher and learner life. She wishes for every learner to gain educational satisfaction that will help embody the people they want to be in the future.

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