While it is good to reflect and understand your emotions better, comparing emotions is a big no no. When we start to wonder why we feel stressed by school workload while others don’t, it might be time to take a step back to even consider why we are comparing in the first place. Afterwhich, we then proceed to tackle the stress we face by the workload. Let’s go!
Do you show everyone you’re stressed? The answer is probably unlikely. As humans, we might have the tendency to hide our vulnerabilities from others. In that way, how exactly do you know if others aren’t actually stressed by the workload in school too? You won’t ever know because you don’t live with the person, you are not the person, so you would naturally not be able to see them stressed either. People might have sleepless nights, stressful days or other things you are unaware about. Maybe they have a coping mechanism for stress which is to not talk about it? Maybe they take the stress positively or maybe they just resolve it on their own? We don’t know what’s going on in others’ lives, so we simply cannot claim that just because they don’t seem/show to be stressed, they aren’t. (Guess you’re not alone in this stress war then!)
So let’s say you really think that people around you are having the best time of their lives in school. Maybe they’re coping with a whole lot of commitments but still not stressed out by it. Well here’s the thing. Everyone’s primarily born different. So, maybe they’re just doing very well because they’re doing things they do very well in all at once?? Or they might just have very sick brain abilities that are able to handle many things at least. Or maybe they have less to worry about at home, less commitments elsewhere you don’t know either. At the end of the day, you don’t know what their story is like and you should come to terms with the fact that EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. No 2 persons are the same no matter how similar their background can be. So is it ever justifiable to compare stress levels with others? NO.
Back to the main point of this entire article, it’s time to dive deeper into the topic of comparing. When comparing becomes overly negative, nothing good would ever come out of it. When we compare our success/failure stories with others, what’s our intention? Are we trying to be better as a person or putting ourselves down? If it’s the latter, maybe it’s time to take a moment to think about where our insecurities lie. When we acknowledge what we feel insecure about, we are letting ourselves be vulnerable but for a good reason. We want to tackle the key to the issue and eliminate it from the equation completely. Trust me, you will love the worry-free life!
Therefore, instead of asking why others don’t seem to be stressed by the workload, you should focus on why you are stressed by the workload and work it out with someone. This is tackling the more pertinent and necessary issue, and FamilyTutor, as a home tuition believes you’ll stay afloat this way!
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