Every parent has their own parenting style and what they think is best for their child. Parents are the ones who are responsible for molding their children to become productive parts of society. It’s a task that shouldn’t be taken lightly. A child’s parenting is crucial since it shapes every aspect of their life, including their personality, habits, and educational opportunities. However, there are so many different parenting approaches, and as a parent, you could feel incredibly conflicted about how to raise your child in the best possible circumstances so that they will develop into happy, successful adults.
Parents only want the best for their children, but they also have to take into consideration that the job of shaping them into the versions of people they want to heavily rest on their shoulders. As with everything else, parenting also affects a child’s response to education. In this article, we’ll be focusing more on the impacts of the different parenting styles on a child’s education.
A parent who has strict, unbending standards and demands that their children obey them is being authoritarian. Most parents want their children to adhere to their rules, and while that would make it easier for parents, children also have their own minds. While every parent wishes for their children the best so that they may excel and have the best chances of succeeding in the future, what is considered “best” for everyone also varies greatly, and in some cases varies from what the child perceives so. Above anything else, parents should be considerate as to what their children need rather than what they want from them.
Not allowing your child to act in their best interests and pursue their own interests carries risks. If a child conforms to only their parents’ expectations, they may not pursue their true passions, experience burnout, feel lost in life, and even decide to stop their education in the middle. This sounds even less desirable than having your child follow their interests and pursue their passion.
Although their passions may not sound like the best plan for you or their interests seems somewhat irrelevant to what you want them to pursue in the future, it’s important to let them experience so they may also learn from it and know that they have taken their shot at it. Who knows? Maybe your child’s passion is worth the nurturing if they continue to enhance and master it.
Although it is important to discipline children, parents shouldn’t be overly strict with them or expect them to adhere to rigid rules. They will become less capable of listening to themselves, making self-advocate decisions, and establishing sound boundaries as a result. As a general rule, you can help your child follow a healthy schedule, but you should also give them the freedom to take breaks or modify their plans as needed. Instead of only obeying orders, they will be able to acquire self-discipline and time management through this.
Helicopter parenting is, as the term suggests, regularly “hovering” around your child, surveilling their every move, and directing them what to do and not to do. Parents such as tend to want to know everything about their children’s business and also tend to be controlling. When you hover over your children excessively and see that they are not performing tasks to your standards, you tend to point out their defects and errors in the hopes that they would make the necessary corrections.
However, when it happens frequently, a child who is unduly protected and constantly told they are incorrect may grow up with low self-esteem and lose the courage to express their creativity and set out to find alternative solutions to issues. They will tend to look at what their parents want them to do before solving a problem. They will tend to rely on their parents even as they grow and should start making decisions on their own.
Having your child make and go about solving problems using their own skills and understanding is a good way for them to practice for the real world. Additionally, it will also hinder their problem-solving and decision-making skills that they need to enhance in school. While it’s understandable for parents to want to shelter their children, they will not stay children forever. They will have to make their own in a competitive world.
Instead of coddling them, you should help them come to their own findings and come up with other alternatives. Ask them questions that would lead to them formulating their responses and solutions instead of coming up with them for them. Making sure they carefully consider their views will teach children how to make decisions on their own.
Singapore’s fast-paced style of life makes it difficult for many parents to be present for every stage of their child’s development because both parents and children are frequently stressed for time. Parents occasionally lack the free time necessary to sit down with their kids and have productive conversations with them that gradually guide them to the proper solutions. Therefore, parents frequently merely give their kids the answer key so they may copy down the sample responses.
Because of their busy lifestyle, they tend to forget the impact of sitting with their child and helping them come up with solutions. They forget how much it means for the child to have their parents help them with homework or making a project. As a result, these children could develop the behavior of just seeking solutions and find it difficult to solve problems on their own. They may copy from their classmates when they find it difficult to solve questions and that will not benefit them in the long run.
This is especially true now that our curriculum emphasizes assessing students on their ability to apply what they’ve learned in various contexts through the use of creative questions. However, working parents find it difficult to set aside time to gently lead their kids, which is why many parents choose to engage private tutors.
A parenting approach that strikes a balance between control and two-way communication is known as authoritative parenting. The parent can use their power while also being receptive to the needs of the child. This parenting approach is the most successful of all because it allows you to both discipline your child when they are acting out of control, such as when they are playing too much, not doing their homework and studying, or not managing their time well, but still give them the room to express themselves in a healthy way.
Your child will feel secure as a result, be more likely to follow fair rules, and be more receptive to respectful discussions about their thoughts. Although authoritative parenting strikes the best balance among the other parenting philosophies, it nevertheless necessitates parents’ flexibility and ability to adapt to their child.
Even while you as a parent would undoubtedly want the best for your child and want them to live their best lives, many common parenting techniques might actually be ineffective and prevent your child from achieving success and being an independent learner. Since this is frequently unintended, we sincerely hope that this post has helped you learn how to support your child in making a genuine academic breakthrough.
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